A Repost - Relationship 101 (Part 1)

by Leoni Abigail Valencia


RELATIONSHIP 101

PART 1:

1. "Ang mag-assume, TALO (kahit 2% pa yan)."

2. "Kung ayaw may DAHILAN, kung gusto may PARAAN."

3. "Wag masyado magpadala sa text."

4. "BACK OFF (as in back off) sa mga IN A RELATIONSHIP, kahit saan anggulo mo tingnan, ikaw pa rin ang mali."

5. "Never borrow someone else's man/girl. If he/she cheated with you, he'll/she'll cheat on you."

6. "Hayaan mo siyang gawin yung gusto niyang gawin. Buhay niya yun, hindi mo maco-control. As long as alam niya yung limitations niya."

7. "Take it slow. Steady lang."

8. "Maniwala sa IT'S COMPLICATED na status. Hindi lang chenes yan."

9. "Learn to LET GO kung alam mong wala na talaga."

10. "Keep your DIGNITY."

11. "If a man/woman wants you, nothing can keep him/her away. If he/she doesn't want you, nothing can make him/her stay."

12. "Wag magselos sa siblings and relatives ng boyfriend/girlfirend mo."

13. "Ang QT (quality time), at least 5 hours lang per week."

14. "Don't revolve your life around him/her. Learn to be independent."

15. "Hindi dahilan ang TIME."

16. "Kung ayaw sayo ng kapatid, hayaan mo siya. Wala siyang magagawa kung mahal ka talaga niya."

17. "Wag magpakilala sa parents agad. It can affect your relationship."

18. "Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Kadalasan tama ito mga girls."

19. "Be nice to your EX. Wag maging BITTER."

20. "If a relationship ends because the man/woman was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. At some case this is applicable."

21. "Wag magpadala sa SITUATION. Baka overwhelmed ka lang."

22. "Stop making excuses for a man/woman and his/her behavior. Paminsan-minsan take off your helmet."

23. "When you meet anyone, remember it's a holy encounter. As you treat them you will treat yourself. As you think of them, you think of yourself. Never forget this, for in them you will find yourself or lose yourself."

24. "Hindi balakid kung magkaiba ang RELIGION niyong dalawa."

25. "Kung kayang i-workout, i-WORKOUT!"
Kalokohan ang reason na "IT'S NOT YOU, IT'S ME."

26. "All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is a two way street."

27. "Learn to forgive para magkaroon ka ng peace of mind."

28. "Some can forgive but can't forget."

29. "If something bothers you, speak up! mahirap kapag nagpapakiramdaman lang kayo."

30. "OPEN COMMUNICATION, TRUST AND HONESTY are the most important ingredients in a relationship."

31. "You need time to heal between relationships. there is nothing cute about baggage. deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship pag hindi kasi, it can affect or even ruin your relationship."

32. "Ok lang na magselos, basta yung pakilig lang."

33. "Always have your own set of friends separate from his/her para may iba kang channels that is without him/her."

34. "Make him/her miss you sometimes. when a man/woman always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him/her, he/she takes it for granted."

35. "Always make time for your family and friends."

36. "You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. look for someone complimentary. not supplementary."

37. "Always make time for yourself."

38. "Wala yun sa tagal ng relationship. nasa pagmamahal."

39. "There's NO SUCH THING as MR. RIGHT or MS. RIGHT. It's how you mold him/her to become rightfully for you."

40. "There's NO SUCH THING as COOL OFF/GRAY AREA. Kung white, white! Kung black, black! Walang GRAY AREA."

41. "Always think a number of times before deciding on to something important."

42."There's a possibility that a person can get attracted to another. It's human nature. It's not wrong. But that is why you're in a commitment, you discipline yourself. One may get attracted to numerous prospects and its ok. As long as, you don't nurse the feeling and do something about it. Borderline between cheating and faithfulness. Recognize reality that you already have the person that can give you more than what you get for the cheap thrill of attraction."

43. "You need to let go of the past to have a future"

44. "Do not take anyone for granted."

45. "If what you see by the eye doesn't please you, then close your eyes and see from the heart. Because the heart can see beauty and love more than the eyes can ever wonder."

46. "If you felt it, then it was true. Getting hurt doesn't always mean you suffered, it also means you loved sincerely. Don't frown because it's over. SMILE BECAUSE IT HAPPENED."

47. "KARMA (whatever you do) will find its way."

48. "Everything will fall into place."

**credits to Kristine Marie Maranan

A Light with a Heart

by Jonalyn O. Damian





Mothers are gifts God gave us for us to experience His love to us. With their unconditional love and sacrifices we were able to know how to live in this world. But what is amazing about them is that they not only extend their love to their children but even to their grand grandchildren…

My mother, Alicia, grew up in a poor family in Southern Leyte. She is the seventh among eleven siblings. At the age of 13, she went to Manila to work and to continue her studies. She worked as a helper to different families but it was not enough to pursue her studies. She stopped schooling in her third year in high school. Though life was so hard for her, she ever stopped dreaming. My mother was good in relating to other people so she gained so many friends that helped her in her life in Manila.

She settled down with my father in the age of 28. She thought life would be easier that time but it wasn’t that easy. They had 3 daughters, flordeliz, jessa and jonalyn. Our mother was able to take good care of us and always supported us in our dreams. Even when the time my father died, she never let us sees that she is weak. She continue to be strong though she’s old, she was able to show us true love thru her actions.

There came a time that my eldest sister got pregnant. My mother was so disappointed but she doesn’t have any choice but to accept it. She had so many sacrifices just to make our lives better. She got angry to my sister but seeing her granddaughter ease the pain. Until now, she doesn’t consider the little girl her ‘apo’ but her own daughter. She loved her and takes care of her though she’s old. She is happy even if she’s tired because seeing her children with a smile always make s her better.

Mothers will always be a mother. Even if there are many things that they do, their priority is to make sure that her children will always be alright. They are the ones whose love is unconditional, who gives love without expecting anything back.

Now, as are mothers grew old, it’s our part to love them back and take care of them. God created mothers to love children and we, children were created to love our parents.

"BOYPREN"

by: Shiela May G. Maluping





This funny video is from "Happy Slip" a very famous site made by a Filipina named Christine Gambito.

BOYFRIEND

According to Wikipedia.org "A boyfriend is a person's regular male companion in a romantic or sexual relationship, though normally not in long-term committed (eg. marital) relationships, where other titles (e.g. husband, partner) are more commonly used. On the other hand, the term "boy friend" (or in some areas "guy friend") can refer to a male non-romantic and non-sexual friend."

SOME OFTEN SAY

• a girl's favorite male friend or usually male companion; someone you can rely on and share your feelings with, one whom you can take advise from, someone you respect but not necessary a lover
• a favored male companion or sweetheart
• a male friend
• a male friend with whom a person is romantically or sexually involved; sweetheart or love

Certainly there can be a lot of ways in defining the word "boyfriend". But it will all end up in the word "friend". So is it necessary for a teenage girl to have a boyfriend? Or is it just the society that dictates the fact that she needs one? When she can instead have a male constant companion or a friend? And the answer, it's a big "I DON'T KNOW".


In the video made by Christine who impersonated her whole family, her aunt is trying to make Christine jealous about her cousin's boyfriend. Which apparently didn't cause Christine any envious emotion. But the fact that they were concerned about Christine having none makes me go back to the same questions above that, is it really needed for a girl to get into a relationship just to consider her a true bloom woman? The anwer is so debatable so I guess I just leave these questions hanging for you to answer.

Listen To Me...

by Leoni Abigail Valencia

This is it. It's my turn now. I can't help it but be nervous while someone blindfolds me. Will I make it? Will I hit it? With so many voices around, to which should I listen to?


"Hampas Palayok" is a classic Filipino game during parties and celebration. Without it, a party is never complete. We know the mechanics of the game - a person will try to walk towards the palayok and hit it, blindfolded. He/She can only be guided by the voices he/she hears around him/her.

Among all the other classic parlor games, "Hampas Palayok" was my favorite but I never won. I remember the feeling of being confident in my first few steps but that confidence turns into panic whenever I hear the shouts getting louder. "Kaliwa! Kanan! Derecho! PALO!" I don't know who will I follow?

I take my first few steps. Yes! I'm going to make it! I took a few more steps. Their shouts grow louder. My heart started to race. "Kaliwa, Abby!" said one girl, probably Jean. "Kanan, Abby!" said another voice I cannot recognize. "Derecho!!!" said a guy, probably Kuya Jeff. What do I do?

This game can teach us a lesson of trust. Do we trust those shouting people enough to follow them? Are we confident enough to listen to what they say? Are we convinced that they won't let us down? These are the critical questions we need to answer when we hear those voices. These are also the important questions we need to consider in a relationship.

I firmly believe that love corresponds trust. Without trust, it is impossible to love a person. A relationship without trust will never last. A relationship without it is never a healthy relationship. Both of them would eventually get tired of being jealous and suspicious all the time. Harsh words will be said, hurtful actions will be done all because they don't trust each other.

My heart is racing. I do not know what to do. But suddenly, I hear a voice. It's not just an ordinary voice. It's the voice that taught me how to play the guitar. It's the voice that consoled me when I was lonely. It's the voice that told me not to be bitter. It's the voice that gave me advice when I didn't know what to do. It's the voice I can trust. It's Kuya Arjun's voice. My Kuya Arjun.

"Derecho lang, Abby."
"Kaliwa."
"Derecho pa."
"Palo, Abby! Palo!"

I did what he told me. I hit the pot! I won! I won! It was a moment of glory. Everybody was cheering for me. Everybody was happy for me. It was all because of kuya Arjun.

To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved.

Maybe... It’s Happiness :)

Maybe... It’s Happiness :)
by Marie Jeddah B. Legaspi

Questions boggle my mind... they echoed to my big, rounded ears; they whispered to my soul-

When I was asked,

What is it about giggling in the middle of the grassy area on campus with your friends that makes you feel glad? Is it because of corny jokes they cracked? Homeworks, all left undone? When you sit there, on your favorite spot, and a gentle wind suddenly touches your face, and you lay your head back down and close your eyes towards the glistening ray of sunlight, do you feel sleepy? What gives you serenity that lets you relax (almost) beyond heavy school works? Is that your happy face?

What is your initial reaction when you noticed him noticing you? Felt awkward? Did you throw him your sweetest smile? Did you utter him words you long to say? Or did you look him on his eyes then suddenly divert your attention away? Are you optimistic that same things will happen tomorrow? ...the next days? Does it gives you exultant feeling of joy?

How does it feel to see him wraps his arms to her but looks back to see if you’re staring? Do you let him know your watching? How does it feel to see him locks his fingers on her hands? Are you wishing it was your palms? Are you really seeing? Or, do you feel contented – assured that he is happy while you drown into tears? Is it self-sacrificing satisfaction?

How did you feel when you wake up in the morning and see your mom prepared your breakfast? That soft and fluffy, warm pan de sal freshly-baked (actually, freshly bought from bakery :D) with love, the hot choco sweetened by thoughtfulness – does it taste good? Did you listen to what your papa says? When he is encouraging, uplifting your weakening faith to go for it? You believed him? Does it make you feel comfortable? Have you taken your one on one conversation with your brother while he’s teary-eyed discussing his latest heart break? Felt happy for him? Do you help him reach for another bottle of cold beer he hid on the refrigerator? Are you of great pleasure they were your home? So you think you can make all of them wear a smile?

Why did you murmur no? Why is it a yes? Do you speak up for yourself? Or do you feel in behalf of others? Silence – love it or hate it? Do you listen to music while running over piles of paper works? What’s the best vacation you ever had? With whom? Want to go there again? Why do you wear flip-flops when you go to school? Does it make you comfy? You think the color suits you? Do you walk with an umbrella on a rainy day? Have you tried bathing in the rain, soothing your senses with downpour of heaven's tears?

I say, the craziest thing in the world is to live. Most people exist... that’s all. I'm not sure, but, I was thinking if; is it just a matter of usual felicity?

...and still could not find answers.

-THE END :)

Roller Coaster Ride: Adventure of a Lifetime

Roller Coaster Ride: Adventure of a Lifetime
by Jonalyn O. Damian

"The highest form of relationship is friedship"

True friendship is perhaps the only relation that survives the trials and tribulation of time and remains unconitional. A unique blend of affection, loyalty, love, respect, trust and loads of fun is perhaps what describes the true meaning of friendship. Similar interest, mutual respect and strong attachment with each other are what friends share with each other.

Friendship is a feeling of comfort and emotional safety with a person. It is when you do not have to weigh your thoughts and measure words, before keeping it forth before your friend. It is when someone knows you better than yourself and assures to be in your side in every emotional crisis.It is when you can sleep fighting and get another morning with a better understanding. Friendship is much beyond roaming together and sharing good moments, it is when someone comes to rescue you from the worst phase of life. Friendship is eternal.

"What is a friend? A single soul, dwelling in two bodies" – Aristotle

Fear from a Roller Coaster. Indeed, friendship is full of adventure. It is like a roller coaster ride where in there is doubt whether to try it or not. There is fear, if you will survive it or you will just be afraid. Forming a friendship with someone comes in different stages. It’s not an easy path. It needs time…time to know that someone better, time to give in your full trust. Losing a friend is one of our fears. We hate to say goodbye, to give up someone whom a part of our lives belong. But if we look deeper in reality, we could say that in friendship, there are no goodbyes. They may be far from us, but their memories will linger and will forever be remembered.

Unfolding Joy. Like a roller coaster, friendship has its ups and downs. We could always be in the peak part of our life wherein we are full of joy and contentment. But, we can never avoid that there will be a time when we will be at the ground. Misunderstanding and quarrellings are just natural things that friendship will encounter. These problems are ways to strengthen a relationship; we should not look at it as a curse but a test which always has its solution.

“No love, no friendship, can cross the path of our destiny without leaving some mark on it forever.”

Hating Rainy Days

by: Paul John Madera



In every hellos there are goodbyes.

This is indeed true,in life we will leave those people we love and we will be left in return too. There is no permanent thing in this world only the word "change". Even strong relationships will come to an end eventually.It's harsh but true indeed.

According to the Social Penetration Theory by Irwin Altman: "Every penetration corresponds withdrawal" quite funny but it is true. Time will come that you'll reach the point wherein you'll decide to withdraw from a relationship.

I hate rainy days literally and figuratively for rainy days blind human to behold the beauty of the nature, for rainy days make someone's life stagnant. Rainy days also brought tears to someone's eyes for rainy days are goodbyes and goodbyes are possibly meant to be forever.

But let us look to the positive side that eventually rainy days will stop, and a rainbow will prevail.Rainy days may be harsh but it's just a prelude of coming blessings.

Even though I hate rainy days, it is meant to occur naturally and all I have to do is to prepare a strong umbrella so that after it pours hard, I could still manage to smile and gaze the coming rainbow.