Waiting Shed

Waiting Shed
by Marie Jeddah B. Legaspi


photo by MARIE JEDDAH B. LEGASPI


Let me tell you a story about –
A woman who waits for her ideal man; a man who waits for the love of his life. And so life happens while they are both busy making other plans. It’s a universal experience. It’s a crucial part of every, if not, most of the relationship. The magic word, it's -

Waiting.

Based on a study, the psychology of waiting tells us that both the perception and the expectation are psychological phenomena. They are not the reality. Accordingly, all who seeks for his special someone must pay attention to three things: what was actually done to for the longed ones, what was perceived by the person who waits, and what the “right one” expects. Fortunately, all these can be managed.


Waiting sounds frustrating, agonizing, annoying, time consuming and sometimes demoralizing. But for those whose intentions are pure – waiting sees no lapse, no boundaries.


In a relationship, waiting defies strength and trust to both people and destiny… or not. It’s about holding on, keeping promises, and giving honor to words of commitments. He promised to come back, and so she waited because someone asked her to. One holds on, because one trusted his words. Now is not the right time, here is not the right place; so you wait. You might succeed and find your happy ending, but too bad, others might fail. Then there's what we call fear of ‘being forgotten’.


When we wait for a kettle to whistle, it seems much longer to boil.

Boredom results from being attentive to the passage of time itself. The more you wait, the more you get bored… and gives you greater tendency to, later on, loose hope. Uncertain waits are longer than known, finite waits. And too bad, the most profound source of anxiety in waiting is how long the wait will be. Unexplained waits; it seems longer than explained waits. I begin with the expectation that my wait will be longer after some dark clouds formed above my head on (my) a rainy day. For that reason, one waits with a great deal more patiently because he/she understands the causes for the delay. You'll find it non-sense to know how you will wait; you just need to discover why.


Now ask yourself whether the dream of heaven should be waiting for us in another lifetime, or, whether it should be ours, yours, today and now on this waiting shed where we stood.